Parents Do Not Understand Teenagers
Parents do not understand teenagers In the past, agricultural social structure simplifies the relationship between parents and teenagers. Without media, there is no pornography, drug and drinking abuse. Without high-tech computer and academic pressure, teenagers have plenty of time to deal with parent and learn filial piety and etiquettes. Parents absolutely have the high status in the family and teenagers only have a “submission” word in their dictionary. Currently, patriarchy no longer dominates our society. Feminists strive for their equal rights. Similarly, teenagers gradually have their opinions and debate with parents.
In face of the more complicate situation, parents mostly fail to establish good relationship with their teenagers. Under the circumstance, how to understand teenagers and how to establish good relationship with them becomes a very important issue. On the one hand, you have to perceive the causes why conflicts form between you and them. On the other hand, you have to find the solutions how to convert the conflicts into harmony. In my opinion, I summarize three key points. Primarily, following the development of computerization, technological social structure breaches the intimate relationship between parents and teenagers.
Teenagers are obsessed to absorb explosively up-to-date information and knowledge no matter whether they are benign or malicious to affect their physical or psychological health. Their purpose is in order to catch up with their peers without being isolated. They are keen to find their belongings and pay little attention to parents. Under the circumstance, parents have to persistently refresh themselves by means of learning and studying as to have a chance to personate as teenagers’ peers. Otherwise, parents will quickly be left behind. Thinking about it. Who are willing to deal with a stubbornly dim-witted creature without sense and skills? ’ My parents have already sensed the disadvantageous position. Therefore, they are industrious to upgrade their academic knowledge and computer skills. That helps us easily communicate and have the same perspectives of view to see the issues as to build up the harmony relationships in my family. Wise and insightful parents are worth testing the sweet fruits because they are willing to thoroughly ignore their high rank status and pay the most attention to onsider their teenagers’ new developments. Secondly, different from past, medias spread the messages very fast. Consequently, our society forms some popularities and idols that become teenagers talking code. In addition to upgrade your knowledge and skills, parents have to recognize contemporary code with regard to popular entertainments and fashions. In face of traveling landmarks, Popular films, games: famous celebrities; fashioned product or new topics, as modern parents, you couldn’t become blind people or deaf people.
Without passing code, you must be blocked outside of teenagers’ world. I have a friend whose parents are inept at driving and English because they are immigrants. Without skills to get jobs, his parents’ only job is working at home to force their children to achieve academic achievement, OC, selective high, private school, 100% UAI. Even his grandparents visit them in school holiday from overseas. His dad excuses semester test to refuse my friend accompanying his grandparents to travel in Australia. His grandparents are depressed with their emotionless and have no choice to attend tour.
Due to too much academic pressure without adequate sport, my friend is unable to grow up. He is as short as primary kids at the moment. Worst of all, his eyesight is deteriorating and afflicted with serious shortsightedness. In my opinion, he is a victim under his parents’ snobbery and superficiality. Of course, his parents do not understand teenagers. My dad has ever invited his family to attend my family 4 WD overstate tour. My friend and his mum are delighted to join us. Our invitation is like oasis in the desert because they desire traveling for long time.
Unfortunately, his dad like a lion fears that his territory is offended. He shouts to my friend and his mum as well as forbid them to make friends with my family because he fears his tyrant status will lose power after his wife and sons start to breath democratic and free air. According to my analysis, his father’s low self-esteem causes his dictation. Selfish and narrow parents deserve to taste the bitter fruit of rebellion sooner or later. Lastly, following the social development, more complicate social structure and more frequent contacts with others causes people’s more complicate emotions.
Parents have to play as “patient audience” roles to listen teenagers complain to help them relieve their pressure and depression. Moreover, prudently take care of their physical and psychological developments and sheer them establishing ethical and moral attributes as to have righteous concepts of life. Encouraging teenagers to see academic award-won films, TV documents and daily world news that will help them broaden their sight view. Having broad sight view, the teenagers will learn how to deal with failures and depression without leading themselves to extremism.
Meanwhile, teenagers’ eruditeness and versatility learned from program will successfully build up their confidence as to have scrupulous and virtuous conducts. Without understanding teenagers, parents could force them achieve academic achievements. However, they couldn’t establish a lasting relationship with teenagers and explore the inside world in the light of understanding and concerning. High intelligent parents always ignore your high family rank and lower yourself to understand teenagers and share their suffering and happiness.
Conclusively, as modern parents, on the one hand, you have to urge yourselves to improve your knowledge and techniques paralleled to the standard of teenagers and recognise innumerably volatile fashions and popularities to acquire the passing code in order to enter teenagers’ physical world. On the other hand, you have to send your understanding and consideration in their profoundly psychological world as to get right to navigate them into a righteous life. Therefore, your relationship will remain harmoniously forever.
