Dear Pat Letter

No more confused or Used, admire your decision to refrain from any sexual activity until you are married; that way, you can avoid the many negative problems that are a result of it. The best way to tell your boyfriend that you want to be abstinent is upfront with no sugar-coating. By telling him directly how you feel, he should take you very seriously and respect your decision more than if he has to infer it from your implication; however, do not delve into the subject tater too quickly or else both of you will leave the conversation feeling awkward and confused.

When things get romantic, there are other things to do than engage in sexual activity: you guys can watch a movie or do something else that will preoccupy and distract your mind. In order to control yourself, do not give in to your impulses and do something else in order to divert your attention; same with your boyfriend! Clarifying a point I made earlier, abstinence helps avoid negative and potentially life-threatening lath issues: these issues include but are not limited to Stir’s and emotional distress.

If your boyfriend does not respect your decision to remain abstinent and consistently pressures you to have sex, then you know that it is time to leave him. A partner who truly loves and cares for you should respect your decision despite if he does not agree with it. I hope you and your boyfriend have a happy and continuous relationship.